14 years

[Blowmax10]

Its been almost 14 years since I've seen my father - almost every year around the holidays I write a note to him trying to end the silence but I never send it.

I think this is the year that I really send the letter.


I'm writing this post for two reasons - #1 is to try and work up the courage to contact my father

#2 is to get my story out there so other people don't do the same thing that my family has done

I don't even know if my father is still alive - I had and older brother and a younger brother but lost contact with them when the family break up happened - its been even longer since I've spoken to them

Lucille Ball is quoted as saying "Id rather regret the things I've done then the things I haven't done" - I can't explain how much meaning that has in my family after 14 years of silence

[Mills]

Bes to luck to you!

Mills

Its been almost 14 years since I've seen my father - almost every year around the holidays I write a note to him trying to end the silence but I never send it.

I think this is the year that I really send the letter.


I'm writing this post for two reasons - #1 is to try and work up the courage to contact my father

#2 is to get my story out there so other people don't do the same thing that my family has done

I don't even know if my father is still alive - I had and older brother and a younger brother but lost contact with them when the family break up happened - its been even longer since I've spoken to them

Lucille Ball is quoted as saying "Id rather regret the things I've done then the things I haven't done" - I can't explain how much meaning that has in my family after 14 years of silence

[bikefoolery]

Send the note. I don't know the whole story, nor do I need to. On earth will never be perfect, humans are flawed. But things can always get better.

Bikefoolery.

[BDawg]

Go for it dude.

The New Year is exactly the perfect time for new beginnings.

Good luck!

[bazookazilla]

do it

My father died in 2009 after we hadn't spoken for about 18 years. He had been dead for over a month before I found out. I was contacted by his lawyer.

[mordantly]

hopefully he isn't a psychopath (clinical definition=him) asshole tlike mine. he is dead as far as i'm concerned! he did it to himself, so i don't lose sleep over only a few people in the family even aknowledge his existance. i don't have any kids because i can't afford any and to break the cycle of abuse... don't want to be avoided by my immediate/extended family, how you were raised is how you will rear your kids.

i suspect in your case, it was more typical family fueding. good kluck with it.

[boobookittyfuk]

my father died this year. we had hard times and didn't talk that much. I wish i could talk to him again.

you won't regret sending that letter.

[lunitick1976]

Ya man do it! And if it doesn't turn out the way you hoped, I always say Family is not shared blood. It's the ones you love and share your life with. Hope the best for you brother.