Thu May 13, 2010 11:36 am
Bad news, but it may be good news in the long run. My parents fought for years as I was a kid, I was relieved when they finally divorced. They married very young and just grew in different directions as they got older. When they split up they kept the houses close so the kids could walk between them. I was 12, my sister was 9 and my brother was 6. To this day my mother is still bitter and petty about it and takes digs at my Dad. My dad never spoke ill of my mom (at least around us kids) and I always appreciated that - now even more as I am an adult and have my own kids. Both of my parents have remarried many years ago and have new spouses that are much closer to their current personalities.
Divorce attorneys are there to play off your emotions and suck out as much money as they can and prolong the pain.
If you can agree to an uncontested divorce, you, Mrs. H and the kids will be much better off.
One friend recently had an uncontested divorce here in Hawaii and it cost $175 and was done in 3 weeks.
Another friend has spent $25,000 for his side (I don't know what his ex spent) and the process dragged on for 6, painful years. It was financed by the equity remaining their home. Once the equity was tapped out completely to pay these legal fees, the divorce was finalized.
Now that you made this decision, if you can be civil to each other and work things out it will be best for you, her and the kids in the long run.
I wish the best to you, Mrs. H and most especially your kids.
