Regarding the 1.63L starter:
The 1.63L starter is the exact size needed to hit 0.75 million cells per mL pitching rate. It's best if you can pitch an active starter so pitch the whole thing into your wort especially for an ale. A 2L starter would be fine also.
I doubt you would would be getting into overpitching unless you were using the entire yeast slurry from a previous batch into a small beer.
If your fermentations are going to terminal gravity, you could try backing down on the pitch rate by 10% per iteration until you are getting the flavor you want.